Very interesting insights, CD, esp. the last bit. Yep - even if she is an anchor, YOU have the power to let go of the rope.
I KNOW how frustrating it is - and how disheartening - when you feel so good/confident one day and then melancholy the next. It's just par for the course, unfortunately, no matter which way the sitch goes. I know how much you want to be out of that place of hurt and disappointment: to feel like you've made it through to the other side. Just remember, the melancholy has its place too. It helps us see in ourselves what we would not see if not for it.
