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[awest1217]

Just be careful that you aren't accusatory. Also give an olive branch of sorts in that you also let her know what is happening with you and the girls. I completely agree that you need to be notified if decisions are made about the girls, but STBXW may not have known and it might have been the aides and the teacher who decided it is best for D8. Maybe they feel she needs that time to catch up with friends before school so she doesn't talk as much during class time. If they run around, maybe she needs that time to let some energy out and they noticed when she does that it helps her focus better. Maybe the teacher needs the time to prepare since it is her time to get prepared for the day. There are many of reasons, and it is important that if you want e-mail to be the main form of communication that you be careful with the wording and make it an open e-mail so STBXW feels like she is able to communicate with you in that way.