2. Get in your husbands face about the troubles in your marriage. NO more hints, NO more suggestions, NO beating around the bush. Be completely up front and DIRECT. I know you may think that you're making your needs obvious to your husband, but it sure doesn't seem to be working does it? Spell it out for him...(If things don't change and we get help, then I don't think this marriage will last) This will get his attention!
YES! This! I know you're feeling like you want to work on your self esteem first, before you begin approaching your H. That's what I thought too at first. And building up your self esteem is key, I totally agree with that. Sometimes though, standing up for our needs with the people in our most intimate relationships is exactly what we're needing to start feeling more self worth.
I know it's hard and scary. The first couple times I stood up to my H and told him how neglected and alone I felt, and how serious this was, I was really, really frightened. My heart would pound so hard and I was so scared he'd just tell me to leave then, if I was so unhappy. I know it's hard though ... my heart goes out to you. You can do this.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
