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[awest1217]

With STBXW, you are going to have to both possibly talk a little to set down how things are going to work between you as coparents. She wants phone calls, you want e-mail. STBXW may be seeing you not wanting to talk as you not wanting to know (I know playing a little devil's advocate). You need to communicate with her and let her know you want to know about these things. Also you could have e-mailed her to ask if she had heard about it.

There is always two sides to everything. You are not perfect and neither is she. You need to communicate with her as much as she with you. Maybe STBXW didn't think it was a big deal because she handled it. This is something to politely let STBXW know that you would like to know about. Maybe if you start a weekly e-mail that details things like what the girls told you about school, what homework you did, big outings they may talk about, etc. (just informational). Then maybe she will follow suit, and say D8 told her about the bully and she called the principal. Someone has to start the positive communication, and whether through e-mail, text, phone, doesn't matter. It just matters that you both know the important things.