Okay, a couple things stood out to me here. BTW I think Sandi's advice to Mike on her thread was great - just about being upbeat, no pressure, no big R talks. I wonder if that's the direction to go? What do you think. Which brings me to this...
"...just the resentment fading away and her maybe forgetting why she decided on us verses them all together brought it all back." If that is the case, then show her how great you are so she remembers. A family date night is ok if that's all that can be arranged... don't worry about what it may or may note be to her. You can still be yourself GW, focus on being the gentleman you are, your integrity, your good nature, all your strengths, try to get back in touch with your confidence... she fell in love with you, and you're still there. Just stay centered... show her the great man you are.
I know you're worried about the flowers, but just take whatever her reaction to them is, in stride. Don't forget, you don't know for sure what her reaction will be. Sometimes when we get stressed worrying about about how someone will react, it creates the very thing we fear. It's a light, loving simple gesture...that's all it has to be.
Oh there was something else that caught me but I can't see it on this screen. Let me post this so I can look again in case I missed something.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
