HSDD to me just seems to be another way of describing a SSM, just in a more technical sense. HSDD only becomes a dysfunction when it bothers the HD spouse, which of course it almost always does, otherwise this forum would not exist.
I don't understand though why the HD spouse should not have the right to judge the LD spouse on weather they meet the HD spouses needs. Us HD spouses are being told non-stop on here that the LD spouses just are not in the mood because us HD spouses are not meeting their needs, that we must change into better human beings before their cups are full enough. It seems to me that both sides are judging each other. If your husband never talked to you again, and never spent quality time with you, and never wanted to be open and honest with you, and never wanted to share anything of himself with you, would you say, that's ok , I can't really judge you. I still love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you. Now you know what it is like to be HD, because we really only want one thing in life, a fullfilling sexual relationship with our lovers.
