Solution is to find a single wife, who enjoys having monogamous sex almost every night. They are out there, ones who don't want to cheat, and who are going to need to have you almost every night.
And what do I do with my current wife, with whom I'm still in love in spite of the lack of sex. And what about the kids?
You've only addressed the easy part. Hence my fantasy where I wouldn't have to give up anyone.
Your killing yourself waiting on her. I'd give it the one year over all time limit. I would ask for religious counsel on the marriage, marriage counselling with a marriage-friendly and male friendly marriage counselor, and also sexual therapy.
If she does not want to participate and take it serious it means you are in a relationship by yourself. You leave.
Don't be like other men and man up and end up being tortured for 20 plus years of your life because you where too proud to leave someone who does not value you.
