Thank you for the advice. I need it reinforced right now that pursuit is DB suicide right now. I am going to print out your post and read it a few more times today.
I will keep posting any emails here before I send. As far as calls, the only time I call right now is to tell my daughter goodnight when he has her for an overnight or if she wants to talk to him. Even when he calls, I am almost always the one to end the conversation.
I am doing a good job with the list you posted from your DB coach, and I think that is the main reason H is cycling back around. My problem right now is that you are right that my 180s & GAL haven't "sunk in" all that deep. I am taking steps, but I am not there yet. I am afraid that if H came back now, things wouldn't work. I'm not done with me, and I am prety sure H is not done with his crisis either.
