I know this is just the beginning of the hard work. I will remain positive throughout the process and take what I have learned here and put it into practice.
So much learned and so much MORE to learn.
I know I will be successful.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Its so good to read of things that are happening that are positive. I was just reading about the negative effects of hopelessnes and then caught myself mulling about all the sad stories I have read here that I started thinking that if I don't see more successes I am ging to stop doing this.... even if I have just started. Good job, Gr8.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
the length of everyones journey through this process is different. I have seen many folks have success within a few months and other that are going on two years.
I gave up so many times only to find myself still willing to try. Keep in mind those who have success quickly usually are gone from the boards. I am thankful for those who have succeeded and still help others.
Read the advice here and learn something every day.
Stay strong and focused. In the beginning it's best to detach and rally take care of yourself first and foremost.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
gr8, I just peeked in to see what was happening and want to compliment you for going with your gut when you sent flowers and a kind note...
It is an example where MWD says we need to experiment and do what works. Sometimes the steadfast rules of "do not pursue" or "do not initiate relationship talk" don't apply! The hard part seems to be trusting when we take the risk of doing those things.
Anyway, good luck and I am happy for you!
(P.S. just cuz I am not a success story doesn't mean I didn't learn a thing or two on this DB forum!)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Hey NM, Thanks for the support. I do believe there is a fine line between doing a nice gesture and pursuing. They say if you feel like its the wrong thing to do then it's usually is the right thing. ~ counter intuitive.
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(P.S. just cuz I am not a success story doesn't mean I didn't learn a thing or two on this DB forum!)
You are a success story. You were able to save yourself! Thanks for the well wishes.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Wh=ent out on two dates with W and they went well. After the second date I sensed the W pulling back abit from the R.
Things were going great and maybe she wasn't ready for it. IDK. Anyway I decided to leave the sitch alone for awhile. I decided not to ask her out again. I wanted to wait for her to feel comfortable again.
Patience paid off. W texted me yesterday to meet for lunch today.
Things are going well so I need to reassure her that a happy R is achieveable between us. No R talk, just actions and rebuilding trust right now. I know it will take time to really feel comfortable with eachother.
I'm remaining positive. gr8
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
