Here's a concept: Listen to your intuition, your inner voice. Your gut rarely steers you wrong.
Also.. what does it indicate when a question needs so much input? Here's a little thing I follow.
If it's right, the answer is yes. If it's wrong, the answer is no. If I can't decide or waffle, the answer is no.
If you want my input, it's G. If you fret this much after a single smooch, imagine how anxiety producing anything else would be. After all, it should be from YOUR perspective, what you're looking for rather than him (describing and/or making excuses for his behavior).