I see you are worried about what your H will think of your actions regarding the finances...if you care, all you need to do is remind him that this is just about you trying to survive with the kids and you can come right out and say that you aren't being vindictive and don't want to "take him for all he's worth."
you know? No mind games necessary or mysterious 180 actions- there is a time and place to speak the truth in a tactful way and be straight forward about it!
How are you feeling today?
oh and I don't know as much about MLC as you all do, but if he needs a rock bottom wake up call, nothing like depleting his bank accounts to help! (ok that was a little "tongue in cheek" of me!)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I really am doing ok! I am a little fearful of what the settlement agreement may do but the one he and his L wrote up is as equally ridiculous...we will see what happens!
A little update...
H called yesterday to tell me he had been cutting wood and asked about switching vehicles so that he could load it up (I have the truck)...he sounded very unsure of himself...I agreed (I had told him awhile back he could use the truck for hauling).
He called this morning saying he was on his way and should he come here or my work..told him my work. He got there a couple of minutes after I did...went straight to the truck and left.
I left his mail and a short note saying that the kids and I appreciate him cutting wood for us and that I was sorry to hear about the passing of his Uncle...that was it....
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Why would your H be unsure about switching vehicles? Was he unsure about how to act with you, in general, I wonder?
Well done on the note. I still think about being "authentic" during the DB times and regardless of how your H is acting, the real CW would be appreciative and compassionate about his loss.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
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