I would die for some PT, and it would not at all have to be sexual.
Yes, I am enjoying the affection so much, not just the sex. I guess Guitarist and I are making up for a lot of years of being touch-starved.
Originally Posted By: kml
Right now, the East Coast guy clearly IS depressed, the 27 year old obscenely too young, and the 44 year old guy turns out to be married in some kind of weird open relationship. So I would gladly settle for a little fun with the 34 year old at this moment in time.
You're setting up false choices for yourself kml! Don't waste your time on any of the above 4! Plenty of fish in the sea. If you're not getting enough guys contacting you, try rotating your profile pic. Also, on the site I was on, people could see if you viewed them...that would get people looking at my profile who otherwise hadn't noticed me.
I hear ya on wanting the fun. But you know, you deserve the kind of fun where you don't have to get stuck in a mindreading loop because the guy is not being clear with you. Look at how much mental energy you're spending on this based on a parking lot kiss...imagine how it would be if you were getting mixed signals after starting a fling? It can be a lot better than that.
I think that as women our brains often like to gnaw away at this kind of thing like a dog on a bone...and our DB experience can reinforce that esp. if we focus on the WAS a lot. It's OK to do it a bit but I find that it gets obsessive (it did when I was dating the guy who it didn't work out with for 5 weeks) and I have to work on thought-stopping.
As far as people who are less available being more attractive, there's a lot of truth to that and some people use it to their advantage. For women, it's really worth reading Why Men Love Bitches. Very stupid title because the author is clearly not talking about bitches. But she is talking about feminine assertiveness and how to put men in pursuit mode. I don't follow the advice to the letter, but it's definitely influenced me and I've noticed that a lot of it "works". Thing is though, you don't want to waste time using tactics on the wrong guy. And I advocate being picky about a guy even if it is just a fling or "booty call relationship" (which probably describes the kind of R I"m in).
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
