After a day of thoughts, I have a few things to add.
Regarding the pending meeting this weekend, I have decided that I plan to view her the same as I see her texts, etc. Simply continued dysfunction and there is nothing to find meaning in.
The presumption that she is going to continue away from me and play house with Goober is my problem. I obviously had a misconception/expectation (that word again) that the affair would be struggling/failing. That would be ridiculous. She is nowhere near bottom and may never hit it. This next stage of the affair is most hurtful to me and discouraging. But it is her choice and her life. Not mine.
I intend to email her later this week with a time that I will be available at the house Sunday- a 3 hour window.
I will ask if she is bringing help and who. If she is bold enough to say 'OM", the answer is NO. Period.
I will leave my D with my parents as I do not wish my D to see her mom's stuff packed and carted away.
While she is here I will ask if this new address is her "permanent" address so her mail can be forwarded (it will give me a "feel' for what this move is) and leads me to the next one VVVVV
If she doesn't take it all, I will ask that the balance of her stuff be removed by month end as I need the garage space.
I will try to be as upbeat and positive as I can while she is here. That's all I can ask of myself.
I don't expect perfection. And I'll deal with the silence afterwards.
