My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Well my H has been home again for almost 4 weeks. I'm pretty sure that we shouldn't be living together. I'm in a hard place though. If I tell him he can't be here he will most likely refuse to help pay for our bills. Because I would be kicking him out. He was already behind some and has since moving home been contributing again financially. I cannot afford to keep us afloat on my income alone.

The reason I say he shouldn't be here is that nothing has changed. I mean nothing. He just goes to work (thankfully he does go to work) and when he isn't working he is sitting around depressed, telling me the same chit as before. "I'm not sure what is wrong with me", "I can't get out of the way of myself", "I can't get motivated"....blah, blah, blah. Same thing he has been saying over and over and he doesn't want to do anything. He seems irritable and constantly annoyed. It's very hard to talk with him without feeling like I'm asking 50 questions and am interviewing him.

I'm almost positive the OW gave him the brush off AGAIN and that is why he came home. I had to be in court yesterday and my H asked his lawyer to move our trial date ahead to August vs. May of next year. He said this will allow us time to facilitate possibly reconciling. However though over the last couple of days my H has been acting very odd. He seems distracted and I'm almost confident he is talking with the OW AGAIN. I wouldn't be surprised if he asked his lawyer to not file the forms asking for the extension.

I again just don't know what to do. I can't make him leave, although he might choose to. Especially if the OW will talk with him again. At that point then I need to be be very detached and not communicate at all. I'm probably going to let the OW know again that he has been living at home and we were reconciling out M.

Phew, life can really beat you up sometimes.