If you read Dr Harleys books His Needs/Her Needs and Love Busters Dr Harley talks about how much damage has been done to marriages by the CoDependent Movement. Dr Harley states that if we plan to have a great marriage we will all be codependent because if we are not CD then we get involved with selfish me, me, me, behavior. I had a wife that read the CD books, and it was at this same time when she took off on her online affairs which led to bedroom affairs. I am not a big supporter of the CD movement because like Dr Harley states if you want to have a great marriage and meet each others emotional needs you will be considered a CD person. Well that makes me a CD person because I set about meeting my wife emotional needs, and I prefer that she meet my emotional needs, too. So, we are all somewhat CD, or we run off and fight being CD and do our own thing with total disregard for meeting our spouse's emotional needs. This is something to give some thought to.
