This is my second go-around and I couldn't care less if my H knew I was here or not.
The first time I was fanatic about deleting my history. I fixed what was wrong with me, learned how to "act as if" and GAL and "detach" and all the other great tactics used here.
It put a bandaid on the real problems, which are H's impatience and lack of impulse control. And his verbal and emotional abuse. No amount of GAL or detaching can fix that--it bought me a couple more years, but in the end, this is not a R that can be fixed.
Funny enough, H now wants to read my 5 LLs book and I do think I had one of his LLs wrong--doesn't matter, there is just WAY too much wrong to worry about that now. If he can figure out some things and have hope for his next R, well that is great. I wish him the best but I don't want him back.
