I don't know if it makes a difference or not, but my wife actually moved out of our home at the beginning of our ordeal. I usually only communicate with her via email/phone/text maybe 1-2 times per week...and have only interacted with her in-person maybe once a month since she moved out.
Because of this, it's very hard for her to see any of the changes I've been working on for myself, hard for me to exude confidence, positivity, or hopefulness on any regular basis that could help brighten her attitude, and very hard for me to understand how we could ever move forward if we live basically as strangers in separate lives now.
It's what I struggle with the most. How much and what kind of contact is not enough, and what is too much/too pursuing? Just very hard to know when or in what way to reach out to her to maintain at least some path of light back to our marriage.
I don't know if anyone could really ever answer that for me though.
M: 29, W: 28 Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09) Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10 Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010 Separated 5/22/10 - Present Affair exposed 7/7/10 No children
