Mike, I can only imagine how hard it must be for the LBH. It took four months of hard "mourning" over loss of the EA. It sounds so awful to use that term, but it describes what your W is going through. I'm sure you want to boost her out of this state and be on with living life. It is painfully slow, but I think she has to feel this pain she's in so that she can come through it and heal. It's part of the healing.
My advise is to not bring up the subject of R or the OM or anything like that. Try to be upbeat and as lively as possible when you're around her. Bring home funny movies to watch and joke or whatever you do to make her laught. If you use to play & pick at her, then try that. Just don't over-kill on any of it. If she tells you to leave her alone or if she's not in the mood....then back off and don't push it.
Time....Mike.....time.
I'll talk with you later and see how you're doing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
