Thank you so much for taking the time to answer those questions for me based on your experience.
You're words are encouraging and uplifting to me...I just wish there was something that could lift my wife's spirits the same way. Something that could help her imagine that there's a possibility for her to regain love for me and have a wonderful marriage...if she would just work at it with me instead of sitting around waiting for something positive to happen.
Right now though, I don't think she's ready. It's been a little over four months since she stopped communication with the OM, and while our interactions are light-hearted and friendly...they happen quite infrequently and she still seems distant a good portion of the time.
I think what I need to focus on is to continue being patient, and not pressuring her about anything. This whole ordeal has been going on for around 7 months now though, and to be honest, I'm getting worried about how much longer I can hold on without seeing some positive sign from her.
In any case...Thank you again so very much. You're a very caring person and an absolute asset to many hurting folks!
-Mike =O)
M: 29, W: 28 Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09) Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10 Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010 Separated 5/22/10 - Present Affair exposed 7/7/10 No children
