Hello - my story

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I believe for my marriage to work, he will want to work on it.
Jolly- at the end of the day, this is true, but it is nowhere near the first step. Don't look for this first. It comes after a lot of other things in between.

He will need to see where he has been selfish or immature.
Is this really necessary.....a lot of people are able to heal their marriages without this piece. And sometimes it comes without a big grandiose expression. Isn't what you REALLY want more love and care?

Either way, if this came .... it may be way after a good deal of the relationship healing, it may not come first. It SHOULD be that way, but it doesn't always work that way. What are some other possibilities you could accept?

I really don't think he is capable of this. That makes me sad, as I think he really is a decent person. Just a little selfish. I think when he grows up, he'll be wonderful.

So you can really gain a lot of positives, a lot of love, without having it follow a certain script, right?


My plan right now is to keep working on me. I can't really affect anything else.


This is a great plan. But watch....by working on yourself...you WILL affect your relationship with your husband!