I do not know for sure if there is another person. I think there may be an attraction. Part of my H's job in the USMC right now is to be a full time student. He lives away all week and attends school at a large university. I am sure he is surrounded by young, hopeful women all day.
He has a history of lying to me. (3 times in the past) Only one included "cheating" on me and it was a one time thing while he was away. I can't pretend that I know the details, but he told me it was one night. He has taken great care to lie to me, and has done so to my face. I found out about each of the lies by snooping. This makes me feel sick to my stomach, but I have not been able to stop until now.
I am at the point that I don't want to know any information that I can't confront him with. sgctxok mentions above that this should not be my focus right now. I don't want a life where I have to worry about this all the time.
I believe for my marriage to work, he will want to work on it. He will need to see where he has been selfish or immature. I really don't think he is capable of this. That makes me sad, as I think he really is a decent person. Just a little selfish. I think when he grows up, he'll be wonderful. Too bad he's already 33.
Writing this makes me feel like I know it is over. That is sad. I would stay and work on everything. I have taken full responsibility for how I have negatively impacted this marriage. (depression due to loss of children)
My plan right now is to keep working on me. I can't really affect anything else.
