My biggest challenge is blowing off my ex. Like you Sol, I love/d (?) him with every fiber of me. I sometimes wonder if I loved him too much, you know they say you cannot love someone too much but it does seem that I have a hard time with detachment there...
Part of it is, I think they know full well just how much we love(d) them, and they use that to their full advantage in the manipulation game...
I hope things get settled away in court ASAP so you can keep going.
Glad you are having fun with HG. It only has to be as serious as YOU want it to be...so relax, take your time, and enjoy.
Oh and Romeo--the whole "If it hurts when you do that--don't do that" plays a big part in the Getting Past Your Breakup book. It is a good universal test for a lot of things, esp whether to interact with the ex. If you feel worse after doing so, then don't do it! (I need to remember that)
