Signals are pretty limited as we don't contact each other except for kids stuff. One day at at cold soccer game, she offerred to bring me a cup of coffee from a local restaurant, but I turned her down. Another time, she was asking me about manuals for some power equipment that she kept and made mention of our favorite sports team in a manner that we used to communicate regularly. She said "Stoopid Packers". I wondered if that was a reach out, but I just ignored it.
She is generally freindly, no, maybe cordial when we are together. I know she was very stressed out about all of this while we were still living together and we have only been separated for 2 months. She said I was beating her down. Because I am paying for her house and all of her utilities and even more, I am wondering if this has still been too easy on her? She recently purchased a brand new bedroom set, while I am buying used. I'm wondering if she wants to get back together badly enough for this to work or even at all.
The other guys were advocating waiting for her to come back and then turning her down on her first request. Really trying to make her work for it so that boundaries and dealbreakers could effectively be set. I'm wondering if I should walk this right up to the edge before I concede any ground, or at least maybe wait through the holidays.
I just don't know how to proceed anymore. Basketball season for the kids starts this weekend, so I will be seeing them at games. Maybe I should try to light something up there since we will be together without me having to reach out? During the kids soccer season this was all still so new that I was a bit standoffish. My W is very prideful also and I have the feeling that she will never admit she made a mistake. Maybe in her mind she hasn't, who knows. I did make the mistake of telling her she was going to regret this decision and she shot back "No I won't". Perhaps that is getting in the way too.
