Oh, and I forgot to mention that my job does terminate Dec 31. Package will keep me secure for a while. I'm starting the job search immediately so that the severance becomes a nest egg.
So in three weeks I buried a friend; lost my job and am told my W is likely moving in with OM.
Strangely, I still feel pretty good. I'm looking forward to the change in job. W moving her stuff out will be another stage in my "release" of the old M.
2011 will be a brand new year and a "180" from 2010.