Is there any hope for us? 2

[gutwrenching]

I know you want an answer to this and I wish I could. But I doubt I can offer much. We are in very different places. I came here like you did..your H is not in a place to process the information and react how you would like him too. My understanding of people's advice here is for you to do this for you, if you need this to help heal and move on. So keep the focus there. I just wanted to help steer you away from opening up a wound even further. Your H is probably hurting, his pride has been hurt, he is angry...you can't change how he feels and you can't change the timeline for him to deal with all this.

For me, there are certain things i want to hear from my W, but that is me, those are my feelings and neither of us can mind read what it is your H wants to hear right now. I think he and I are in way too different of a place. For me about the only thing that would remotely make me feel better not worse is a sincere commitment to look towards the future, bury the past, and let me know she realizes the huge mistake.

Be honest, don't seem needy, get this out of you so you can move onward and upward.