Yes, I have been stuck too long 25. I'm going to do what I told H I was going to do and that is move on. I'm going back to GAL and if God wants us to recon it will happen when H decides to do something proactive like you said above and stop listening to outside influences and doing what they think is best for him.
I know this isn't part of DBusting but with the last text I sent him I told him to man up and help with the family he left with nothing or I was going to move on and go to court for the benefits and spousal support. I just got so fed up with him trying to hurt me in anyway he could.....bringing up exgirlfriend, knocking my son down, knocking me down, saying his family said I was the biggest mistake he ever made and he agreed.
But I put up with this anger for a long time. The second year has been the worst. At least during the first year of separation he would call and check on us and we would communicate a little here and there. But ever since he got back with his real mother and that side things have gone down terrible. Although he was thinking about us dating in March but then took that back again, and said he didn't think it would be a good idea.
So, I thought I would switch things around (180), and told him to leave me alone and to help with the bills that are in both of our names and to man up. And to only contact me if he can be civil or nice and that I would not be contacting him anymore.
I really meant it that night, and yes I'm still sad and scared but I got tired of him calling all of the shots! Being nice when he wanted and being nasty when he wanted and I would have to put up with it. Well, no more! I will pray, just read a post that took up to 3 Years because she was basically doing the same things I was doing and she and her H are back together. So I will continue to pray and give it to God. There is nothing else I can do from here. H will have to be the one. I've done this for 2yrs. now.
