John,

You seem like a good guy; a passionate guy; a guy that would give the only shirt off of his back to someone in need. However, IMO from reading your posts you are a guy that needs to be needed and will attach themselves to the next person who can feel that need.

One of the golden nuggets that I got early on from this site is that it is not healthy to need someone, but it is okay to want to be with someone. I do not need my W to be happy or to "complete me" as the romantic in me would say. You need to find it within you to turn those needs into wants. And TH is right you are in a sitch where it is beyond armchair psychology and free advice.

I have mentioned it and I know many other posters have as well have mentioned it. You need time to be alone and to find you and determine what John wants. John, you do not need anyone for you to be happy. What are you doing for GAL?