Thanks Evolve. Appreciate the thoughts and words. Now just journaling a little: This stuff is real tough too. Even when the WAS "comes back" there is so much baggage...and just not the same level of commitment or knowledge like those of us that came here and learned all this stuff. Supposedly my W has read the 5LL book (before we started reconciling) and she has never said a word to me about it. You mention melting from those looks...well those looks from me were genuine, my W knew it and loved it, and hours later crying about lingering feelings for OM.
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I was attracted to a man that I otherwise would never have been attracted to. He didn't have half the attributes that my H had. He wasn't better looking, he wasn't smarter, he wasn't kinder but he listened and that made me feel important. I knew he wanted me and that made me feel attractive when my self-esteem was at its lowest. I now know that I was using him as a crutch for all of the above reasons.
Wow - that is some awesome insight...think there is a lot of similarities to my W.
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
