I resisted for a long time. I didn't want to stop loving him, or missing him. But it was not going to be returned to me. So, that is the choice.
You can go on loving and missing them.
Those feelings will naturally, quietly fade, if you stay NC and keep your focus on yourself. It takes time.
The very thought of doing that was just so sad to me...I didn't want to do it. But the other choice I had was painful. I did it alot before I realized that I could choose not to hurt like that.
You don't get happy by picking one of these paths. But you can find peace at the end of one of them.
