Thanks Lance and 25. I am getting help for my depression and believe it or not I think I made my H think a bit.
I don't really think he knows about my depression. And 25, you are so right. I think I fell into the trap of rejoice. That's why I didn't file for spousal in the beginning, I didn't want H mad because I had already filed for child. That is just one of the things I was doing to follow rejoice.
I have not seen my H in a long time and the last time we spoke was last week when he told me he couldn't pay part of the loan because he had to get a lawyer for the hearing about him keeping me on his benefits. H has had full control of everything for the past 2yrs. And last week when we spoke, he wasn't even making sense. I took care of all the bills etc. And I was trying to explain to him that if he took the insurance that wasn't as expensive as the one he has now that it will end up costing him more in the end. I couldn't get it through to him. Although he is ADHD, and I did have to do all of this when we were together.
And he was pushing buttons again, saying he was involved with someone but then going to get back with his ex girlfriend like I mentioned and she is married and when I said to him that she is married and what the heck was he talking about he turns around and says that they are best friends now. H, exgirlfriend and her husband. He was not making any sense at all. Then the week before he said he was watching his girlfriend's kid and then said he was only joking.
What the heck is this all about? Is it to see where he stands with me since I made it look like it was fine with me or should I say that I didn't cry for the first time and just acted like I was alright?
Is it too late to start DBusting all over again? And not get the 2 confused as far as rejoicers and things go? I want and still have hope because why else would H want to see if I care or not about what or who he is with....and that is the only thing I couldn't understand about rjoicers. How the heck do you watch our spouses remarry and have another family and not move on with your own life? I know we are suppose to be married till death do up part but I'm divorced already due to physically being abused and mentally abused. I really don't think God wanted me and my S20 to suffer like that anymore.
I don't know how to start a new thread. Lance????
Sometimes things have gone too far for too long and then what God wants, I assume, and hope, is for us to create new lives for ourselves. I doubt he wants us to watch our exes remarry and have a new family and still pray each night for their return and do nothing else in our lives. Do you think that's what rejoicers are suggesting?
