XH is off his pedestal and I'm moving forward

[MHL]

GAG,

I just want to clarify something as I was thinking about what I just posted.

I had said in an earlier post

Do I want to be with someone who chooses to be around people that negatively impact their lives???? Are you strong enough, independent enough to make the right choices for YOU???

then I said

Go ahead, MOVE ON...because your XH is not going to give up his best friend of 30 years to "date" you. If that is the criteria for your decision then you got your answer right there.

I also said this....

Stop giving this person (BMF) so much "control" over your decisions, your relationships, YOUR LIFE.

Some of those posts may come across as contradicting.....

Here is my thoughts on this person, and this really has to be it for b/c I am sick of talking about him...LOL

Your XH is not a puppet, he is ultimately in control of himself. BMF could be a complete holeass but does that really make your XH a holeass too?

All I am saying is that, worry about the holeass when the time comes to address it, and you are a looooonnnnngggggg way away from that time.

You may find that later on it may not even be an issue, right???

Who knows what the future may bring??????

You could end up liking the guy someday, crazier stuff has happened.

Cheers