Idk that it' the guilt but it is a total 180. If your spouse is used to you fighting them on their perception/truth and you start validating them, it does WONDERS. How can you possibly argue/resent someone who is AGREEING with you? It's like reverse psychology. Plus you are addressing their concerns and trying to empathize w/ them. Everyone loves that. It's wonderful.
Originally Posted By: pinhead
Originally Posted By: disbelief2010
I have at least once seen the confused look on her face at my posotive reactions.
It's amazing what happens when you agree with your spouse. The other day, W was spewing about how I had never loved her, or given her enough attention.
I replied "You're right. Completely right. I was a horrible husband, I never loved you the way you needed."
The look on her face was absolute confusion. She wanted/expected a fight, and I was agreeing with her!
It's a lot easier to agree most of the time, and arguing simply does no good. Of course you can't agree with everything, but you can sure agree with their feelings.
