Hi I am new, and my sit post is under review...I am the H on the other side of this, except my wife left to go TO a luxury apartment lol... I have pretty well been getting ignored by her in my weekly attempts to contact her (i call but she ignores it and I leave a message so she can hear my voice. I am polite, I aske her to call me back...thats about it...then last thursday I did not call. She emailed me to say she didnt know if I called cause her phone is broken...the feeling you mentioned enjoying of control when you realize you have power over him...I think she feels that to...which means you care...maybe not a lot, maybe not in a good or healthy way...but not fully detached...one major difference in our sit is that I did not cheat on her...Now I showed her pride and arrogance Im sure...anyway, minus the affair, is there any better way for me to handle this than just 'staying dark'? will you contact your H after the three weeks you set for yourself? how do you monitor changes in him with no contact? do you care? would it even matter? I still love my wife, but its getting hard to just 'wait' without starting to detach myself...thanks for your thougths, V
V , You have to detach for yourself. Stay dark and focus on yourself. The fact she wondered if you called shows she has taken notice of your change. Keep making changes.
