Desert Rat is right, girls. Men don't usually care what size our breasts are, they just like that we have them.
I was a scanty B cup in college, and am a 34DD now (go figure - all I had to do was have three babies and gain thirty pounds, and half of it would end up in my bra!!!).
It has been my experience that men always liked them, no matter the size. If you're small, just go braless!!!
My hot small-chested sister has never lacked for male attention. But she totally dresses for her body type and is super picky about clothing fit.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Kissing on the first date sounds like a common and acceptable occurence! Bravo! Men aren't saying we are slutty and women are sounding very open and willing to be kissed, correct?
It is great to learn so much from one another!
Ok so thanks for the feedback about the bra/breasts!
Now,Desert Rat, I think you might need to create the mood for the woman who is "holding back"....if you go on a 3rd (or is it 4th?) date with her, get her to open up! Remember the 5 love languages: Words of Affirmation Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
Quality Time In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
Receiving Gifts Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Acts of Service Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
Physical Touch This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive
I think conversation must be in there somewhere, like under quality time?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Thanks for reminding me about the Five Love Languages - I think I just figured out my date with the 34 year old! Of COURSE I was smitten - my love languages are Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch. So what did he do? Told me I was a "hottie" and kissed me in the parking lot for five minutes. Jeez, doesn't take much for me, does it??? (Of course, he was also megasmart and funny and very cute. And tall. But I think I'd best be a little more aware in the future of how susceptible I am to someone who speaks even a little bit of my love languages, and be a little more cautious - especially since he's not contacting me now.)
