We've been living for almost two years under an informal agreement of custody and support. I have paid her the same monthly amount all during that time, and we've split custody 50/50, except for her several trips to see OM, so in reality it's probably around 52/48 in my favor, and if I could convince a judge of that, I'd be named custodial parent. The income rule is only used when there is an exact 50/50 split of custody. If one parent has majority custody, they are custodial parent regardless of income.
Illustrating the insanity of our state laws, I could also go to my employer and tell them I need to be more available to my kids during this hard time and request a reduction to part time status, making sure my pay is just under what my W earns. Then by default I'd be custodial parent and she'd have to pay ME all the child support. My standard of living probably wouldn't even drop much! W would be financially destroyed. That's how crazy it is.
When I spoke to my W a few days ago she said she "wants what she's entitled to". She doesn't get it. SHE isn't "entitled" to anything. It's all just based on whoever is custodial parent, which is purely a function of income. There is no "entitlement", at least not in regards to child support.
