Mystik, there's dwelling on the past and moving forward. You aren't moving forward because you care for H and you're afraid to let that go because it may be all you have left.
FWIW, one of the first people I did turn to was someone who split from his wife... divorced her and then married her a second time.
YOu're not ready for a second GOOD go at anything with your H. This is on your shoulders now, not his. Forget fixing this mess, cuz it's a mess and it's not worth putting a crap load of bandaids on. You have every reason to axe this "marriage" and make way for new roads... without ... OR with him. And I still think he'll be back. But YOU're not ready... I keep saying that cuz I truly mean it. Where to start? 1 minute and 5 minute jobs. Go walk for 5 minutes. Learn to train your mind to go elsewhere when you think of H and the whore. It CAN be done...did it...saved me a lot of grief.
WORK on you, you've been given enough info.. enough with the excuses now... time for a hoof in the backside from us so we can get you back on track.
*hugs* Abs
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.