I am wearing pants to work that I have not been able to wear since last February...they were too tight! Yay me.
Excellent.
Nothing works better to change your perspective than setting some reasonable goals (pay down some debt, get into shape, learn something new) and achieving them along with taking some time to appreciate all the good in life.
Congrads!
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Get your mother bear up - I'm pissed at him, and I'm not even Nathan's mom!! Are you keeping a list of a$$hole qualities, for those times when you think of inviting him to join you and the kids?
On another note, glad you are feeling good in your skin as of late - I have to get back to that, too.
My mother bear was up. I just realized about 1.5 exchanges into the convo that it was a cheeseless tunnel. One of those conversations you can have in your sleep it is so predictable. Anything I said would have made him angrier, and I don't need that, and Nathan doesn't need that. So, I withdrew from the conversation and walked a few steps away to talk to Sydney. (Our practices are in the Y gym, no bleachers, no room, you just stand around the edge of the court basically.)
And I don't feel great in my skin yet...but I do feel better in my skin. Because I am being proactive and not just sitting around moping that I somehow allowed myself to gain TWENTY pounds in 12 months! Instead, I took the bull by the horns and got a trainer to help me do it the right way this time.
BBJ, it's just that dan's attitude toward your son's performance in sports activities really worries the sh!t out of me. What is he saying to the poor kid when you're not around?
That is emotional abuse, and kids can absorb a lot of it because they love their parents. Especially the parent that left. Weird, I know.
Parents who live vicariously through their kids like dan does, and who are rabidly critical as well, are very disturbing to me. dan is like that @sshole dad in "The Bad News Bears."
And I pray to God that one day, Nathan rebels and embarrasses his dad the way the kid did in that movie. Priceless.
dan is also teaching your children to doubt themselves and to lie, as with the Sydney "left-the-birthday-gift-in-the-car" bit.
No wonder so many teens go off the rails. There are so many issues that could have been avoided.
