I'm sort of torn on this one. Some things consistent with Gucci's point of view to apologize as many times as needed are:
1) Things I've read about infidelity (not sure if it's specific to infidelity or not)
2) Things my sister has told me that pissed her off about her ex-H. Her ex-H cheated on her and when they talked about it and she would bring up the A, he would say we've talked about that already, this conversation is over. She said it pissed the hell out of her. That sitch was a different though cause he just kept philandering away with no change in behavior, so it's hard to know if it really made any difference whether or not he kept apologizing. I do know it pissed her off that he would say 'this conversation is over,' 'that is in the past,' though
3) They are her feelings. Aren't we invalidating them by refusing to address them?
Gucci, on the other hand, they cant keep beating you up for the same thing over and over, get stuck and not move forward? What would you say about that -- that eventually they will move forward if you keep apologizing (or if not, then you move forward by yourself?)
Also, Gucci, she hasnt been doing this lately, but what if someone engages in crap behavior (screaming, cursing, etc.) while bringing up something you've apologized for previously. I'm curious if you would agree/apologize, call out the CB, or some combination?
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