Yes, I've asked H if he's gay. Says No. I'm not sure if there was abuse in his childhood or not... His father left for OW when he was only 2. I don't think he is pursuing gay lifestyle or he's just not into ME.
Last few years, i could understand-- don't bother with anything unless I'm going to activity for kids... The past year rough for him due to lay-off, then very demanding work sitch. But... That's one year out of 20.
I know he loves me... But not sure if his prior lack of sexual experience before M, or just lack of attraction is the reason for no sex. It started even when we were engaged, then big time after M. His mom had cancer, so I thought that killed desire for him... I'm always making excuses to try to explain it.
I did find some porn sites on the computer about 10 years ago with teen girls... ??? But this is basically a pretty decent guy... Unless I'm just horribly naive.
