Coming to an end.

[antlers]

Well, they did say it was gonna be a certain amount at mediation, based upon the state formula for calculation. I had no problem with that. Then afterwards, when I went to review the decree, it was a significant amount more that what I was told at mediation. Again, based upon the state formula for calculation. I protested, and the Judge ruled against me...what I was told at mediation did not matter. So now I am paying more child support for one child that I was paying when I had to pay child support for two children. I got BF'd.

I'm an RN. I've worked hard and saved for a long time, for our future. The retirement account that I singlehandedly built up for us, by myself over the years, was destroyed by this divorce. I had to pay her $107,000 straight cash, plus a buttload of child support for my daughter (whom she has custody of) until she's 18. Plus I only get to claim the income tax exemption for my son, whom I have custody of, if I do all of the other financial crap that she demands of me...like paying the overwhelming majority of my daughter's unreimbursed medical/dental expenses.

She had nothing when she came into my life, except a 2 year old daughter whose dad wanted nothing to do with her. I loved and accepted her child as my own. She didn't have a penny to her name. She had a rusted out POS car that she bought for a couple a' hundred bucks.

Over the years we had 2 more children, I bought her 3 new cars over the years (something she had never had in her life), I bought her 2 new homes over the years (something she had never had in her life), and I sent her to college and helped her get her B.A. in Accounting.

She made out like a bandit.

People should not be financially rewarded for cheating, lying, destroying a family, and leaving the kids in a bad way...she was. And people should not be punished for being faithful and honest, and trying to save the family...I was.