I did re-iterate that if she contacted OM that I suspect we would headed down a path of not being able to recover from. She asked why and I said for 2 reasons: one it will just feed those feelings you are having now and likely result in increased feelings and communication...and secondly because it would be so disrespectful to me. I don't know how else to handle this one.
You are absolutely right, GW! If she contacts OM, all the ground that has been gained will be shot to bits. The best thing that could have happen to her was for OM to dump her first and her pride get stepped on, but since it didn't then she continues to carry a tourch for him.
I know that she has to get out at some point, but I wished she was stronger before going on that trip.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
