Hi GW, I'm sorry to hear about the tough weekend. I have to agree about taking the time together even with the strains of life and kids. Speaking as a woman, reading the 5LL really opened my eyes to what I was missing from my H: quality time. I don't know what your W's LL is but I can tell you that I yearned for that more than anything. I finally gave up and started living status quo. I also missed the look of love in my H's eyes. To see that again would have melted my heart in the biggest way. We all just want to feel significant and important to each other. I miss that intimacy as a woman more than anything... it had not been there for at least 2 years. As I have said in the past, I was guilty of an EA without realizing it ~ 2 years ago. I was attracted to a man that I otherwise would never have been attracted to. He didn't have half the attributes that my H had. He wasn't better looking, he wasn't smarter, he wasn't kinder but he listened and that made me feel important. I knew he wanted me and that made me feel attractive when my self-esteem was at its lowest. I now know that I was using him as a crutch for all of the above reasons. You are the better choice even when your pride/ego may say different. Try to remember that. Even 15 mins would have been a building block for me.
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
