John - if you are so vested in showing your W you are a good man then why are you having an emotional affair with another woman?
Having such intimate talks with somebody that is not your spouse is not okay IF you are trying to rebuild with your W. I bet you will know will be able to DB your W like a rock star since your emotional attention is with the OW. You are using the OW to provide you with what your W has chosen not to provide to you.
This woman seems to feed your ego which I think you really need but do you think your W would categorize this as being a "good man"?
I am very skeptical of OW. I don't know any women that consider an emotional man attractive. I can't speak for all women but dealing with an emotional man is nothing more than a big project that gets old quick. Everybody has emotions but I would not say being emotional is something most well grounded women are looking for.
For OW to take such emotional support from a married man with a kid, well, it's curious to say the least. Her age and job are moot points - her motivations are another. Needy people cling to other needy people and it seems she *needs* so much emotional attention for a reason.
Women who philander around with married men in ANY capacity tend to get all hot and bothered when the married dude chooses HER over his W. It's an ego boost to her and when her ego is boosted so does yours.
All I am saying is if you want to see if things can ever be rebuilt with your W I don't believe this is the way to be doing it.
