how long do you do no contact?

[MrBond]

"What am i closing my eyes to?"

You are closing your eyes to why your H isn't coming back. It's not because he's stubborn or proud. It's because he's not attracted to the way you are now.

I'm sure you not trusting him was a big problem, but you're still doing that. Have you worked on your trust issues? Have you worked on what it was that made you attractive to him before?

You never did answer the questions I asked above:
Have you tried making yourself more desirable in the way that he wants? Have you been condemning or accepting? What have you done to show you're different? Or will you stay the same?

Answer those questions and things will start getting better. But start being honest with yourself first. Why would he want to come back to you?

[braveheart]

Rysmom, sorry to be negative, but if he wouldn't come back after your son's problems, its probably not going to happen.

[rysmom]

Ive seen from your other posts to other people that you are a angry negative person dont post messages to me anymore please.

[rysmom]

to bad you are not going to tell me where i can post messages.

[rysmom]

you should get a d and move on with your life.

[MrBond]

rysmom,

I think your post to braveheart was very uncalled for. He was very honest with you and was done with care. If you are that critical about a person who actually cares about you, is there no wonder your H hasn't been back? Re-read what you just wrote to braveheart...is that the person you want to show your son that you are?

Are you still on meds? You mentioned before about your mood swings and so I'm concerned.

[MrBond]

rysmom,

I notice you haven't responded to the questions I asked. You simply can't "will" your H to come back.

Have you tried making yourself more desirable in the way that he wants? Have you been condemning or accepting? What have you done to show you're different? Or will you stay the same?

Answer those questions and things will start getting better. But start being honest with yourself first. Why would he want to come back to you?

[rysmom]

my h took my son out last night for dinner and to buy me a birthday present. I dont know what they bought until today. i think it was nice that h did this.