Not sure where to start or end? WAW? #4

[john28]

I also want to add that my DB learnings translate into Professor Cat Lady as well. I think we had a conversation last night where she was talking about how she felt kind of distant and couldn't connect because of the sitch that I'm in. I told her that was good she felt that way, and I respected it. Not only did I respect it, but I wasn't going to say anything to try and make her feel different because nothing I could say would change how she felt because her feelings were REAL and VALID for her. I told her that she would just have to see how she feels given my actions, and that was all I could do.

Sound familiar?

She seemed floored really. She asked how and why I wouldn't change how she felt... I told her it was her place to feel how she felt and not for me to change that. She was going to feel how she felt and any presure from me to feel any different would not work. If her feelings changed, great, but if they didn't that was fine too. Either way, I'm fine and happy because I don't want any control of the situation and can only control myself and what I feel.

Sound familiar?

I think the words out of her mouth were, "Please, tell me your secret to letting go of that kind of control. That's amazing."

It's like mind-judo.