Living Like Roommates

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Good thread my experience is only recent but OM cut my W off cold and it was evident in her anger resentment and paranoid behavior. It seems the EA/PA fantasy bomb drop to me in her case made reality set in. I don't know where we will end up but I have the sad heart breaking advantage of knowing the OM very well and his spouse, this allows for double checking who is where and who is contacting who. From my limited experience if my w was still in active A I would have told her to go. She is considering moving out to work out her emotions and I have said go and she has not taken action. With the W having an A the marriage is a security blanket and the fantasy with all the thrills won't end untill something is shattered. I think someone mentioned a book it's a great easy read almost dead on. Between DR this other book about Women having affairs and all the internet resources it seems once you understand the "anatomy" of the affair not only is it easier to cope with but easier to work the situation. BUT still one roller coaster ride I did not want to take. I have seen the most change since switching to PMA, a whole bunch of 180s, no R talk and just acting like a friend. I have at least once seen the confused look on her face at my posotive reactions.