Its really such as struggle. I am in the same boat - I also get that feeling that he is eating cake. So I decided, for my own sake, that I will eat cake too, since the benefit is both ways. I let him know that I need to interact for my own sake, so he gets the feeling that he is doing something for me. Somehow, that validates his wanting to be needed, without me pursuing.
Although easy for me as we are not S, just in a compromise mode -staying together for the sake of D.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
