Well, I wish my WAW had given me written notice, I had been asking her to go to couseling for a year, then one day out of the blue she tells me we have an appt with a couselor of her choosing...Then 2 visits one month and one fight where I spent the night at my moms...poof...we have only been married 2.5 yrs. I have not had nay reall communication from her in a month...I have only contacted her once a week for 4 weeks...and I plan to discontinue that...My wife is right, I have suffered pride and arrogance, and have admitted this to her by written email...she apparently has not filed, refuses to answer her phone, or reply to emails in any meaningful way...she sent me one about her phone being broken after the first thursday I did not call her, so apparently she is sorry she missed the opportunity to intentionally blow me off...most advice I have recieved says...stay away, no contact, let her reach out to me...that is where I am now...I forgive my wife the damage of renting a luxury apartmetn, leaving me like a thief in the night. Having her family come to our home and take all the things she wanted while I was at work, and then again while I was at church...I understand I have failed to make her feel cherished and loved, I have as the bible tells us failed to 'love' her as my own body...I have been rude and quick tempered with her...I have not cheated, nor abused her, and she currently is my wife, and I will begin to rebuild trust as I can by giving her the 'space' she needs...I will try to resist the urge to file to force her to make a decision, but I dont know how long I can live like this...going insane wanting to see her, talk to her, be with her...to know we have a future, its not a trick...It the same way I felt before...I think we both had too much going on in our lives, and forgot to speak the languages of love to each other...thats why I wanted to go to counseling...but as I said, not her priority until it was 'too late'...anyway I could go on, but I think thats a basic picture...any thoughts are appreciated. Thanks V
