I think there was a point where this became more of the "how to bust your spouse's affair" rather than divorce busting. With things revolving the "action" of the affair rather than the reasons for why the affair happened, people seemed to become obsessed that once the affairs were done with, things would go right back to normal.
What amazes me, however, is how this approach is frowned upon even on the INFIDELITY forum. I mean, reasonable people can disagree about its appropriateness (or timing) on Newcomers, say, or whether or not an "MLC affair" is substantively different than a "normal" affair (whatever that is), but c'mon, on an INFIDELITY forum? Isn't that pretty much the PURPOSE of such a forum -- to get help in busting the infidelity?
I think if your perception that such a forum is for "how to DEAL/COPE with infidelity," vs. one that's more problem-solving in nature like "how to BUST the infidelity," then you're going to have an entirely different perspective than one who views it as the latter.
