Sol, That wasn't my W. I just showed it to her so she would know I unstand how she felt.
I just spoke to W. I gave her a call and we spoke for over an hour.
My gut feeling was that she needs to see something from me. I wasn't going to proceed with the wait and see technique.
I called her to suggest we go to MC. Her reply was~ It would be needed if we choose to go that route. OK, she's still uncertain.
Some key points of the convo were:
She still thinks I'm playing games. Said I would do some nice things then do some mean things. I didn't argue. That's her perception. Her parents now, who were supporters of R, are now telling her she should move on. W showed her mom the email from me stating I could be with someone who doesn;t want to be with me. Her mom said I was playing games with that email. ???? Her mom also mentioed she should goto MC so she could have peace of mind that she tried everything
W did bring up the past again. I just listened, really listened hard.
I then spoke about what I wanted in a R, ~ M. I told her I will be a supportive partner. Told her I wasn't going to sit back, I was going to lead us through this horrible time. Told her of some past times she made me happy and that I wanted more of that. I mentioned I called her today b/c I wanted to make sure I tried EVERYTHING to save the M so I wouldn't have regrets. I ended by asking her if anything I said was unclear. She said no.
She paused for a few moments and then said.............
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